Hairbrush

I wear my hair relatively short. The same style for years. In addition to short, it’s been thinning too. And, although my hair is relatively trained, I still need a to use a hairbrush so it doesn’t look too disheveled. 

My hairbrush. For my short hair. In my drawer. In my bathroom. Just for me. Mine.

Since it’s my brush, I don’t have the habit of looking at it before lifting it to my head. I just use it.

Recently, however, strange hair has been showing up in my brush. I never notice it until I feel all those stray, foreign invader hairs brush against my own no hair ever touches it ear. Agh! 

This strange hair is long. And it’s auburn. For some reason or another my dear daughter—the brown-eyed, auburn-haired princess she is—has been using my hairbrush.

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To some of you who wear long hair or have think hair, having hair all hanging out of your hairbrush all the time, this hair in the brush business is just life. But for this fella it’s been a bit of a shock.

Agh! There is hair in my brush! That just feels weird. How do other folks even stand it?

Those are the thoughts that roll through my mind each time I lower the brush from my head and pull all the auburn hair out. But I don’t holler at my sweet daughter. I haven’t even told her not to use my brush. No, I smile. And I thank God for entrusting to me such an amazing young lady. Growing in grace and spirit, intelligent and witty; she humbles me.

Children are a gift from the Lord;

they are a reward from him.

—Psalm 127:3

I could go on and on about her. And then I could get started on my boys. If you are a parent, no doubt you could do the same. What blessings our kids are! Gifts. Rewards. Let’s treasure them. No matter their hair in your brush or their stinky feet or their anything else annoying or difficult. Be thankful that you have them hair and feet and all! 

By the way, next time you see her—my precious, auburn-haired princess—please don’t tell her you read this. Just smile at her. Like I do. And, like me, be thankful to God for entrusting her to us. Be thankful for every child God has allowed in your life. Learn from them. They are a gifts. Even if they do you use your hairbrush.

Tone of Voice

"I would like to be with you right now and change my tone of voice, because I don’t know what to do about you."                   Galatians 4:20 HCSB

How many times did my Mama say, "You better change the tone of your voice, Mister," when I was being disrespectful.

How many times I've said to my kids, "Watch the tone of your voice," when they are sounding ugly to ne another or me.

And, let's be equal opportunity here, how many times could my kids say to me, "Daddy, you should change your tone of voice."

Yes, we can all do it, can't we? Take a tone that may be stronger than needed or deserved.

Which speaks more, the words you say or the tone with which you say them?

Paul is writing the dear, misdirected Galatians. These Christ followers started out well, but got side-tracked by lesser things and allowed lesser character to control.

He asks, "how is it that you are turning back to that way of life?," in verse 9. He says, "I fear for you, verse 10, & "I plead with you," verse 12. Like a parent talking to children who should know better. Maybe like a parent begging adult children who absolutely know better. Paul is exhorting them.

Then he does it. He calls them, "My dear children," in verse 19. See. It never changes. From almost two thousand years ago until today, parents have had to take a tone with their children. Parents don't want to have to use that tone of voice. Paul even wrote that he didn't want to have to take that tone. But he did, as the NIV translates, "because I am perplexed about you!"

Some folks will take a tone with you just because they can, just because they are mean, or for no reason at all.

Yet if God—by His Holy Spirit, through His Word, or from a trusted Christ follower—takes a tone with you, you'd better listen up. Know that He loves you. Know that He doesn't want to be harsh. But know that He is trying to get your attention. Even if He has to use a tone of voice outside of the norm.